Thursday, May 15, 2014

Communication


Except: The Leader Servant  ~  3 December 2012

Dallas Theological Seminary – SL305 Dynamics of Leadership



The Leader Servant’s high proficiency demands effective communication. Effective communication comprises an array of subtopics: verbiage, tonality, rate, volume, eye contact, body posture and positioning, facial expression, attitude—desire, love, patience, method of written, oral and the various technological categories of each, and the variability of all these. The best communicators practice, practice, and practice!

 

Body posture, facial expression, attitude—desire, love, patience affect all communication regardless whether the audience sees or hears the communicator. We subconsciously convey these attributes through our dialogue, whether in person, on the phone, writing a letter, blog, text message, e-mail or post on Facebook or LinkedIn.

 

Additionally, prudence advises stating one’s tonality in written communication, especially when the environment is tense. For example, Paul concludes 1 Corinthians by telling them how much he cares about them after a letter with many heated messages, encouraging the Corinthian church to get their act together.

When necessary, I commence e-mails saying, “Please read this in cordial, conversation tonality.” This results from experience when some have interpreted my attitude in the communication as angry or upset, especially when I seek to concision in a hurried moment.

 

Eye contact is vital, this captures and maintains the listeners attention along with letting them know that you value them as a person. Additionally, the lack of eye contact usually indicates dishonesty, shame, shyness or insecurity.

This indicator enhances our ability to adjust the communication on the fly, whether speaking with one or present to several thousand people. Varying verbiage, tonality and volume also enhance the listeners ability to stay attentive.

 

Paul instructs the Corinthian church of the necessity to have interpreters if speaking in tongues. He points out that communication’s effectiveness includes comprehension. The Leader Servant understands listener comprehension includes adequate articulation and volume of the message for them to hear.

Several years ago, 1974 Horatio Alger award recipient William Bailey served as my mentor for my public speaking. He previously mentored renowned speakers such as Jim Rohn, and Less Brown.


Mr. Bailey said, “Rick, you have a terrific, powerful message. However, we need to improve your articulation and voice’s tonality.” I visited a speech pathologist weekly in first and second grade.

William Bailey suggested I read aloud Shakespeare or King James version Psalm, “as if to 500 people”, for fifteen to twenty minutes every day.

My articulation and tonality improved greatly, consequently others willingness to listen and respond to my message also increased. As a Leader Servant, I continue developing my voice and encourage others to do the same.

 

The Leader Servant strives to include as many as possible in the organizations communications, especially e-mails. Obviously, confidentiality and topic aide in determining scope. Supporters and donors desire inclusion of communication. If they desire, they may request omission from the list or delete the e-mail.

 

How does one improve verbiage? Strive to omit most “be” verbs such as “is, was, be, being, are,” etc. They do have appropriate uses, we must choose carefully. One may often find a powerful verb to use. Negations should also be avoided to the best of one’s ability.

 

For example, instead of the Leader instructing his group to “Don’t be late,” or “Don’t forget…”, the effective Leader Servant instructs them to “Be on time” and “Remember.” The subconscious fails to register negative connotations such as “not,” and “no.”

Consequently, the words “Do not be late” register in the subconscious as “Do be late.” The conscious does have the ability to recognize and acknowledge the negation, however this requires 40 percent[1] more brain power than the absence of negations.

 

 

See Christ, Believe Christ, Achieve with Christ!

Rick E. Meyer

See, Believe, Achieve Inc.


 



[1] (Glahn 2012)

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